If you feel suicidal, stop to read what follows. It will only take you five minutes. I do not want to dissuade you from the reality of your pain. I do not speak here as someone who knows what suffering means.

I do not know who you are or why you read this page. I only know that at this moment, you read it, and that’s a good thing. I can assume that you are here because you suffer and you think to end your life. If possible, I’d rather be with you at this moment sit down with you and talk face to face and open heart. But since this is not possible, do it by means of this page.

I knew a number of people who wanted to kill himself. I myself was in this case. So I thought of what you can feel. I know you are not able to read a big book, so I’ll be brief. While we are here together for the next five minutes, I have five things simple, practical, and to tell you that I share with you. I will not argue whether you should be killed or not. I just think that if you think you have to really suffer.

Well, you still reading this text, and it is very good. I ask you to stay with me until the end of this page. I hope this means you are at least somewhat uncertain, deep somewhere inside you, whether or not you’re really going to end your life. It often feels that, even in the deepest darkness of despair. Being in doubt concerning his death, it’s normal. The fact that you are still alive at this minute means you are still a little uncertain. This means that while you want to die at the same time, a part of yourself wants to continue to live. Let us stick to that and continue a few more minutes.

Start by thinking about this sentence:

“Suicide is not a choice, one is led when pain exceeds the resources needed to cope.”

In suicide, it is only that. You are not a hateful person, or crazy, or weak or unable, because you feel suicidal. Having dark thoughts do not even mean that you really want to die – it just means you have more pain than the resources to take charge now. If I pile the weight on your shoulders, you would collapse after a while if I add enough weight … regardless of your willingness to stand. (This is why it is so useless that people tell you: “standing guard morale” – you would, of course, if you could.)

Do not accept that someone tells you, “there is no reason to be suicidal for that.” There are different kinds of suffering that can lead to suicide. That pain is bearable or not differs from one person to another. What may be tolerable for someone may not be for you. The limit where the pain becomes unbearable depends on what kind of resources you have. Individuals are very different in their ability to withstand pain.

When the pain exceeds the resources needed to cope with the result, they are suicidal thoughts, the “dark thoughts”. Suicide is neither true nor false, so, this is not a character flaw: there is not to judge him morally. It is simply an imbalance of pain in relation to resources that enable them to face.

You can survive suicidal feelings if you do one or the other of these two things:
Find a way to reduce pain, or find a way to increase your resources to cope. Or both at once.

Here are five things to take into consideration that I mentioned earlier.

1. The first thing you need to hear is to know that it comes out. People who suffered as much as you right now, it came out. You have a very good chance to get away. I hope this information can give you a little hope.
2. The second thing I suggest is to give you back. Tell yourself, “wait 24 hours before doing anything.” Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things – you have the feeling of wanting to kill you, does not mean you have to do now. Put down between your suicidal feelings and acting out. Even if only 24 hours. You were able 5 minutes reading this page. You can do it again 5 minutes by continuing to read. Go ahead and become aware of the fact that while you still feel suicidal, you’re not, at this moment, now do so. It’s very encouraging to me, and I hope this is for you.
3. The third thing is this: we often think of suicide to find relief from her pain. We do not want to die but to stop suffering. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you must be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you’re dead.
4. The fourth thing is this: some react badly to your suicidal feelings, because they are frightened or angry they may even increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things . You must understand that their negative reactions have to do with their own fears, not with you.But there are also people who can be with you during these difficult times. They will not judge you, not seek to contradict you. They will just pay attention to you. Find one. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone what is happening to you. It is normal to be able one day to ask for help. Call a crisis line dedicated (SOS Suicide Phoenix, friendship SOS call a specialized center near you, or look in the directory), call a therapist (psychoanalyst, psychologist, psychiatrist), someone who is capable of you listen. But do not carry the added burden of trying to charge you for that alone. Just talk about what brought you here you can remove a large part of the pressure which weighs upon you, and it may be just the extra resource you need to find balance.
5. The last thing I want you to know now is this: the suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After their disappearance, you need to continue to take care of you. Start therapy is really a good idea.

Good. He has been a couple of minutes and you’re still with me. I’m really happy.

Since you have been so far, you deserve a gift. I think you should reward you by giving you a portion of additional resources to face the pain. Remember, higher towards the top, I said that the idea is to make sure they have more resources than pain. Then give you an extra or two, or ten …! until they surpass your sources of pain.

Now, if this page could bring you any relief, the best and greatest resource you can find is someone to talk to. If you find someone who will listen, and if you tell him how you feel and how you got there, you really up your resources. Fortunately, the first person you choose will not be the last. There are many people who would like to hear what it is for you. It is time to start looking for one around you.

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